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Imagine: Your adult child is assigned a project at work he doesn't like. Instead of having a nose-to-the-grindstone attitude, he pushes a chair, slams a notebook on the desk, and sighs loudly as he exits. Will his boss appreciate his lack of self-control? Probably not. This young man's parents should have taught him self-control skills as a child, but sadly they didn't. Here's an article with 7 ways to help your child learn self-control. #self-control #adult #job #parents
“Dear Sharon, How do I get my kids to listen and do what I have asked when I ask? What natural consequences can I use if they don’t listen & do what I ask? I usually have to ask 5 times, then resort to yelling, then they finally act.” Today's solution shares one thing you can do to begin changing listening. If you look at yelling through the eyes of a child, you’ll see what I mean. The full solution is on the blog. www.proactiveparenting.net
How did you make Christmas "a little bit more" this year? ~ I'm not talking about the gifts you gave or received. I'll go first. We suspended the traditions that were no longer a fit for our family and kept the ones that meant the most. It turns out what meant the most to all of us was sitting down and having great conversations for hours and hours as we feasted on snacks, drank a lovely glass or two of wine, and laughed and laughed. Connection was the gift that kept giving.
🎄 Kids see Santa's 🎅 🎅🏽 🎅🏻 🎅🏿 everywhere & want to know which one is real. 🎄 Kids need age appropriate truth from you, so they learn to trust you without question before the more challenging stuff shows up. Does that mean you must destroy the magic of the holidays or the religious beliefs you hold dear? Not at all. Read how a NY Times writer addressed this question with her child. http://proactiveparenting.net/santa
I believe saying, "You've got this." then moving on to what's going on in your life that you perceive as equally difficult feels like abandonment to the one who doesn't think she's got this. It's the holidays; we've all been through it and continue to go through it. Please be kind and supportive of the person feeling the pain. They're reaching out in the best way they can; please don't ignore their plea for support and understanding.
Have you been asked the big question yet— Mama, are you Santa? or Is Santa real? You want to preserve the magic, but you also believe in honesty. So what's a parent to do? Years ago, the NY Times published an answer to this seasonal question. The answer convinced me this was destined to be a classic. NOW, YOU CAN READ IT. This doesn't conflict w/ religious beliefs; it helps kids learn how to trust the unseen forces we ask them to believe in. #Santa #honestmotherhood #believe
Here's a peak at what's in the article: 6th paragraph: "No parent sets out to plant a trigger or create a life-long wound inside their child’s psyche. No child wants to feel the pain that arrives when a parent’s stinging words label their basic nature. Nobody wants that pain; it taints how we see our entire world. 10th paragraph: "Many believe their parenting will automatically differ from their parent’s because they’re from a different generation. There are some powerful aha's here.
If you've been looking for a way to be honest and authentic about who Santa is and what he does, then this is for you. Warning: This article is not trying to change anyone's beliefs or rituals about the holidays. It is simply for those looking for a way to update the Santa myth. #Santa #holidays #Christmas #parenting #santamyth #honesty #authenticity
It's time to extend your awareness to your kids. You don't want your kids to face the pain you faced as a result of the emotional damage you endured as a child. You never want your child to feel the emotional pain you did. It's time to embrace methods that aren't permissive or drill sergeant like. They're authentic, empathetic, clear & empower instead of punishing kids, all without compromising your line in the sand. It's time to stop passing the pain down the chain. #personal growth #empower
Shame & not feeling worthy are wounds that haunt us. You hate it when others shame you, BUT... Do You Shame Your Kids? Some use shame to motivate. Some use sarcasm to discredit kids. Some use name-calling to shame. Some sigh loudly to shame & signal disgust. Some do the eye-roll. Brene Brown says, "Shame erodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." No parent wants to destroy the emotional muscles needed to change, kids need those muscles. #shame #brenebrown
There are some people in this world that just "get"you, and you "get" them. Hilary Bilbrey, Inspired Living Coach and Sonja Montiel are two of those people. We just did a very on point intereview about their topic this month, Companioning. Listen to the interview on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/results... Tons of "parenting gems" in this one! Thank you ladies!
The Santa Myth is hard to explain to kids. This explanation is destined to become the quintessential Story of Santa. Here's the direct link in case that one doesn't work. https://proactiveparenting.net/the-sweetest-way-to-tell-your-kids-the-truth-about-santa/ Don't miss this one!
Is Santa Real? Have your kids begun asking you that? You're in luck! This is the Sweetest Way to Tell Kids About Santa. https://proactiveparenting.net/blog/ Did you enjoy this persepctive? Are you looking for support as you become a mindful, yet authoritative parent? if so, Join us inside Real Talk Parent Lounge, on FB.
Thanksgiving/Christmas are filled w/memories, love, talks & delicious food. It's going to be different this year. SO..."Take your frown & turn it upside down!" Let's add joy, hope, & love to our lives, even if it's only for a few minutes. Let's go "Old School" & Snail Mail Holiday Cards this year! Send cards to friends, family, business associates, & everyone who's been helpful this year. Real cards allow folks to revisit your words when they feel low.
Kids need academics + ways to manage emotions. 2020 forced us to find an internal place of peace, so as the waves of challenges arrive we can find a place to rest emotionally. Kids need that too. 2020 is teaching skills like connecting, honesty, and how to maintain integrity as they watch you handle events. "No child is losing anything by distance learning‚ they're learning other, just as valuable things too." Like this? Join Real Talk Parent Lounge: https://www.facebook.com/groups/realtalkpar
Biggest Decision You've EVER Had to Make as a Parent: #School? #Unschooling? #Homeschooling? You need all perspectives so you can make a decisions. LinkedIn Editors asked for my opinion, and I answered. I hope this helps! #COVID #Distance #Learning