Ah yes, as opposed to just a wonderfully intelligent woman. Ever hear anyone refer to a man as dangerous for being well-read? However I believe it is that the well-read men with abusive tendencies that make the most dangerous abusers of all.
The most beautiful part to loving a guarded girl is this: When she lets you in, it's not because she needs you. She stopped needing people a long time ago. It's because she wants you. And that—that is the purest love of all. I'm sorry I'm so guarded.