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There are many ways narcissists use to bait others into conflict. Some of them are: Dredging up incidents from the past, shaming, attacking your integrity, accusing you of lying/cheating, triangulating you against someone else. While the methods they use vary, their motivation for baiting others into conflict is for power & control. When a narcissist can antagonize others to the point of feeling or expressing strong emotions, they get a surge of abusive power.
Psychological invalidation is one of the most lethal forms of emotional abuse. It kills confidence, creativity and individuality. Each person’s feelings are real. Whether we like or understand someone’s feelings, they are still real. Rejecting feelings is rejecting reality. It is like telling water to not be wet. There are many forms of invalidation. Most of them are so insidious that we don’t even know what is happening.